2010 has arrived and so many of us have prepared the usual list of New Years resolutions. I have never been much for resolutions but I do set goals each year in both my personal and professional life by reflecting on my past year and deciding what changes I want to happen in order to be a happier person. Each year my first priority always seems to start with my eating habits because diets and challenges all seem to be temporary. Learning more about nutrition, eating fresh -not processed foods and eating smaller portions is a constant goal. At 40 something my metabolism is not as it used to be and it is much more challenging to keep my body healthy. I am excited about finding new ways of staying healthy, I prefer referring to it as “Staying Healthy” rather than wanting to be thin.
When I awoke this morning I though I would make a list of some of the things I have discovered in my life up to this point…here is what I came up with:
*As a woman-feeling healthy, eating right and steady exercise does wonders for self esteem!
*My biggest challenge in life is patience, if I can slow down and enjoy the ride it always has a better outcome.
*Being single can really, really be fun!
*I have no idea how to flirt, actually I stink at it because I was told that by a guy recently. I need to work on this one.
*Winter sunrises and sun-set are absolutely beautiful!
*I have no idea how to cut wings and pizza out of my diet…or at least to replace them with a healthy alternative. These two foods are always the first thing that come to mind when I want something really bad!
*The person who invented the chocolate chip cookie was a personal trainer who’s pleasure was seeing the pain of lunges in the eyes of the cookie eater.
*The world needs more love…in every city, state and country, I always feel a bit like a hippie from the 60’s saying that out loud but I do believe it is the most important and underachieved thing in most of our lives. It is also the one thing that makes us feel the best at any given time when we truly feel it in our hearts.
*I have learned that with age my heart continues to soften and giving something back is becoming more and more important to me.
*That Mr. Deisel is really Mr. Barker and is continuously trying to communicate with his ancestors far away….God help my neighbors, I am working on this issue!
*If you love yourself you have self-confidence, if you have self-confidence you make healthy choices, making healthier choices makes you happier and your life becomes more fulfilling.
*You can not make everyone who comes into your life happy merely by being nice, that some people will always place blame, always be the victim and no matter what you say or do nothing will change their outlook. With this I have also learned that you must let these people go and pray that they find love within to fix what they believe they don’t have.
*I may not know a thing about men after all! Over and over we are told that they are very simple creatures of habit….define simple please!
*Life is exactly what we create, creation happens with the way we think. There is no one else to blame in regards to what our lives look like so we need to make our thoughts align with what we want and be accountable.
*I have learned that I have a world of things to be grateful for and I am so, so fortunate for all that I have.
*I have come to realize that I may not have ever really been in love after all. The thought occurred to me recently while talking to a friend about love and questioning the circumstances of my past relationships. Do I get so caught up in the excitement of someone showing me attention that I confuse the intimacy and a somewhat codependent time of being together as love. I am not sure, I have never thought of it in this particular way before. It is something I am seriously looking at…
*The movie “The Sound of music”? is my all time favorite, and the best love story ever!
*Every human being on this earth wants to be in love and have a partner no matter what they say, it is the most primal part of being human. What I don’t understand is why is it not occurring more often and why when we all want it, is it so complex and hard to find?
*Coffee doesn’t taste good to me with out all the sugar, it is the one thing that I can’t make healthier and taste good at the same time!
*Working out everyday really helps me to relieve stress and I am learning to love the process more and more.
*I still after 8 years in Nashville hate cold weather…at least when it gets under 40 degrees.
*I love who I am…it has taken 44 years to be able to say it but finally I do, and I look forward to creating more for myself that I will love in the future.
*I believe my purpose here is to continue to find ways to inspire others, my desire is to help, give and continue to discover ways of doing this…it truly brings me happiness.
*Laughter is the one thing that instantly makes us feel good and we all need so much more of it!
I’ve never needed New Years for incentive to change something I needed to change. As I grow older life has become a time of discovery and I have learned to look inside for change rather than having to go outside of myself for incentive. While doing all of this internal work I have become much happier, I laugh more and I worry less. Some goals continue to challenge me, I am still working on increasing my income through my passion, loosing that junk in the trunk and I still have the desire to someday be in a committed relationship. I know that with the work I am doing on ME those things are on the way. The most important thing right know is to enjoy the process, take each day moment by moment and be grateful for all that I have because I know I have a lot! Sending love out to all of you for the new year…thank you for reading (and please leave a comment if you feel the desire)!